Albert Bandura once said that “self-efficacy is the belief in yourself and your ability to perform in ways that influence events that affect your life” (Self-Efficacy: The Exercise of Control). In other words, self-efficacy is how strongly one believes that one can provide their desired Results. Essentially, can one take personal responsibility or ownership? …
Most people use these two words interchangeably, do you? I did a quick search and received the following results: Accountability: (noun) the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility Responsibility: (noun) the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone It is interesting that the definition …
What does it take to be a man? No, I am not referring to the song by Boston, but that is a great song. I mean, as you think about what does it mean to a man, what comes to mind? Who comes to mind? For some, icons like John Wayne or Chuck Norris come …
Have you ever noticed yourself looking forward or back to certain seasons? It could be a particular season of the year, or a specific season of life. I know I do.In the past, I would say that Fall is my favorite time of year. Unfortunately, it left me either waiting on Fall to get here, …
Growing up, I loved to read “Guideposts”, specifically, the article in there called “His Mysterious Ways”. It always amazed me to read the stories of God working in peoples’ lives. And, I used to think that was just other people.As I sat in Quiet Time recently, I read a story of a man who had …
Great fathers are the ones we aspire to be like, the ones we turn to for guidance, direction and inspiration. Great fathers are the ones who have helped us through enormous challenges and been with us to celebrate the best wins. They embody the characteristics and mindset that most wish to have but few consistently …
I really enjoyed Paul’s letter to the Phillipians. Out of that letter comes my favorite verse, Phillipians 4:13. Today, I read Phillipians 2:3 “Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vain glory; rather humbly regard others as more important than yourselves.” It is great advice. In Extreme Ownership, the sentiment is echoed in “Check …
May is Mental Health Month, and mental health is definitely in a crisis in our country today. One only needs to watch the news to see the litany of senseless violence. I am talking constantly with my family clients about controlling their attitude and effort, as well as about how they control their Thoughts, Feelings, …
I had a client call me yesterday, let’s call him Bob. Bob was very upset at his wife because she had come home from a week of travel, with Bob managing the house, their children and his job, and decided to “sit around watching Netflix”. Bob was tired, too, he explained to me. He did …
One of the key tenets I teach and coach is that circumstances happen to us, everything after that is for us to control. There is a lot of power in the belief that others don’t control my thoughts, feelings, or actions. I did, however, have a hard time when trying to explain the idea to …